I feel like lately I have heard so many stories of people ending their marriage. Some were ones that had been together over 15 years, others, less than that. It's really scary as a twenty year old to see all these examples of failed marriages. It's enough to make me want to shy away from dating and the thought of marriage. I can't help thinking, if these people can't be successful, how the heck am I supposed to be?
This past year someone I was really close to went through a divorce. I saw firsthand what she went through as she was going through the divorce. In her case, it was the only option left. They had been struggling for years, and in the end he wasn't willing to fix his end of the problems. It made me really sad to see her give her all to making their marriage work, but in the end, if both parties aren't willing to make the sacrifices needed, it won't work. It brought me a lot of comfort when Elder Oaks said, "Whatever the outcome and no matter how difficult your experiences, you have the promise that you will not be denied the blessings of eternal family relationships if you love the Lord, keep His commandments, and just do the best you can. When young Jacob “suffered afflictions and much sorrow” from the actions of other family members, Father Lehi assured him, “Thou knowest the greatness of God; and he shall consecrate thine afflictions for thy gain” (2 Nephi 2:1–2). Similarly, the Apostle Paul assured us that “all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8:28)." It's comforting to know that even though in this earth life people might not be getting the dream marriage, as long as they are righteous and doing their best to live the commandments they won't be denied nay blessings. I think it shows how loving our Heavenly Father is, and how badly He wants us to have every blessing possible.
I also really like how he said to make sure you know who you're marrying. I've seen so many people suffer and have marriages end because of rushing into a marriage without fully knowing the other person and what they might struggle with. I think it's perfectly okay (and unavoidable) for people to have weaknesses and imperfections, we're al human, but some people struggle through things that affect not only them, but the person they're marrying. It's unfair to marry for someone to marry another person who is struggling with something severe but didn't make it known before. I think it should be a person's right to choose to help them through the struggle instead of being forced to.
This week's lesson taught me that even the risk is totally worth it. It's okay to be cautious, and even a little bit scared when it comes to relationships; I mean, they are a big deal after all. But no matter what happens, as long as you are living a righteous life and putting in your best effort, the Lord will take care of you.
Hello Katie. So good to know you through your profile on the blogger and the blog post. I am blessed to know you as a young woman of God cherishing christian values. I am also glad to stop by your blog post on "The new Trend". I can understand your fear of dating in the midst of seeing failed marriages around you. This should not happen with the christians who cherish Biblical valued. Bible speaks about God who hates divorce and getting yoked with unbelievers. In the light of Biblical trust what I see is shocking in westen society. I think it is the effect of to much of independence where you build walls of protection around you and you do not want any one to encroach your freedom. I am from Mumbai, India and have been in the PASTORAL MINISTRY for last 37yrs in this city. In India though it is a heathen country but yet the devorce rate is between 5 to 10 % amongst Hindus and may be little less amongst christians. Here the involvement of parents in making final decision is very important and final. Parents do conder the choice of their children but the final decision lies in the hands of parents. In christian marrigaes where parents depend more on the information given by their Pastors. So the involvement of these important people in making final decision is crucial and hence the couple in real sense get in to covenantal relationship which the Bible talks about. Kaitie we would have you come to Mumbai and make your prayerful choice and I am sure you will not be scared to enterd in to covenantal relationship that will last long. Well beside this topic I wanted to share with you about the program our church has for the young people in the west. Mumbai is a city with great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Chrit to bring healing to the broken hearted. We also encourage young and the adults f rom the west to come to Mumbai to work witih us during their vacation time. We would love to have you come with your friends to work with us during your vacation time. I am sure you will have a life changing experience. Myemail id is: dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and may name is Diwakar . Looking forward to hear from you very soon. God's richest blessings on you. Praying for you as you seek God's directions in your life
ReplyDeleteHello Katie. So good to know you through your profile on the blogger and the blog post. I am blessed to know you as a young woman of God cherishing christian values. I am also glad to stop by your blog post on "The new Trend". I can understand your fear of dating in the midst of seeing failed marriages around you. This should not happen with the christians who cherish Biblical valued. Bible speaks about God who hates divorce and getting yoked with unbelievers. In the light of Biblical trust what I see is shocking in westen society. I think it is the effect of to much of independence where you build walls of protection around you and you do not want any one to encroach your freedom. I am from Mumbai, India and have been in the PASTORAL MINISTRY for last 37yrs in this city. In India though it is a heathen country but yet the devorce rate is between 5 to 10 % amongst Hindus and may be little less amongst christians. Here the involvement of parents in making final decision is very important and final. Parents do conder the choice of their children but the final decision lies in the hands of parents. In christian marrigaes where parents depend more on the information given by their Pastors. So the involvement of these important people in making final decision is crucial and hence the couple in real sense get in to covenantal relationship which the Bible talks about. Kaitie we would have you come to Mumbai and make your prayerful choice and I am sure you will not be scared to enterd in to covenantal relationship that will last long. Well beside this topic I wanted to share with you about the program our church has for the young people in the west. Mumbai is a city with great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Chrit to bring healing to the broken hearted. We also encourage young and the adults f rom the west to come to Mumbai to work witih us during their vacation time. We would love to have you come with your friends to work with us during your vacation time. I am sure you will have a life changing experience. Myemail id is: dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and may name is Diwakar . Looking forward to hear from you very soon. God's richest blessings on you. Praying for you as you seek God's directions in your life
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