As I've been learning more about how to have healthy relationship in my Marriage class, one of the things i"v enjoyed most is reading Gottman's book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Something that I've particularly loved learning about is learning how to turn towards one another. Gottman describes turning towards as "Stating your needs, being aware of bids for connection and responding to (turning towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationships."
This is something that I have personally found to be incredibly important in relationships. When you're unable to respond to bids for attention, you are missing opportunities to build trust and commitment within the relationship. When you learn how your partner bids for attention, you will be able to nurture your fondness and admiration and begin developing a healthy relationship.
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